Shhh… Menopause Wellness has been formed to help women transition through the menopause period with a voice, with tools to help them understand what’s going on, with products to assist in alleviating symptoms of anxiety and lack of sleep. To connect like-minded women for open discussion around the topics which are not often aired through fear, misunderstanding, embarrassment, or because of a societal view that these issues must be dealt with on a private personal level, not for the office, or life outside the home. Shhh…  “A group of women from all walks of life, united through the diversity of female experience, to form a vibrant team of sisterhood. It is OK for women to take time out to look after themselves”. Shhh… “is going back to nature, working with ingredients and essential oils that have been used for centuries”. Come and join us, be part of our community, air your views and concerns and above all share the wisdom that comes from experience.


The story of a woman’s role in life has been written about for millennia. In different cultures woman is revered in different ways – as women we are the givers of life, fundamental to the survival of the human race, known also as sages, healers in our later years. We can be referenced as Earth Mothers “the earth conceived as the female principle of fertility and the source of all life, a female spirit or deity serving as a symbol of life or fertility, a sensuous, maternal woman” (source

Yet as we go through menopause, many of us feel that we have lost our way, we no longer seem to know ourselves, our value in society seems to disappear overnight, we are seen as the “grey” people with no valuable contribution, invisible to the advertising and fashion industry. This doesn’t have to be so, we can transition through this period with vibrancy, find our new way forward – laugh with each other and share our stories. “In a famously provocative cornerstone of feminist literature, Susan Griffin explores the identification of women with the earth – both as sustenance for humanity and as victim of male rage. Starting from Plato’s fateful division of the world into spirit and matter, her analysis of how patriarchal Western philosophy and religion have used language and science to bolster their power over both women and nature is brilliant and persuasive, coming alive in poetic prose” (source Woman and Nature, The Roaring Inside Her by Susan Griffin).


There are so many angles to view the opinions held about women!!


Statues of fecund women have been reported back as far as 23,000-25,000 years ago and are known as the “Venus Figurines”. These are the oldest known representations of the human female form and are dated back to the upper Paleolithic period. However, most recently a figurine, thought to be 35,000 years old has been recovered from the Hohle Fels Cave in Germany. The full article about this can be read at:

Venus Figurines of the European Paleolithic: Symbols of Fertility or Attractiveness? (


Women are known as the home makers, at the centre of kinship and family, the creators of sustenance and the nurturer of the family. They are very powerful leaders and contributors to the overall status quo of a culture. Women often use a variety of routes to exercise authority, and it is common to find many women’s groups where women gather to share information and put in processes whereby the community as a whole benefits. Women are often spiritual healers and advisers.


It is said that there are 4 stages of womanhood, teen, maiden, mother and elder or crone. Each phase brings with it a different set of hormonal activity, role, emotional status, and perception of the female in society. In the Finnish Mythology of the Kalevala, they talk about the 7 stages of womanhood, maiden, wife, mother, crone, sage, warrior, and healer. I think that many of us can identify with these 7 phases and certainly know people within each stage.


So, what is the menopause?


According to statistics reported by the NHS, it is understood that the average age of the menopause is somewhere between 45 and 55, and for the UK the average age is 51. For women under the age of 40, it is said that 1 in 100 will experience menopause (referred to as premature menopause or premature ovarian insufficiency).


If we are to look at the numbers of women who will go through menopause (or the change as it is often referred to) it is helpful to see what the world division of male to female ratio is. According to “The sex ratio – the share of the population that is female – varies across the world. And globally in 2017 the share of women in the world was 49.6%. The sex ratio at birth is not equal: in every country births are male-biased. The ‘natural’ sex ratio at birth is around 105 boys per 100 girls.”


In essence, every other person is female, that is a lot of women who, should their life span reach their 50’s, will experience menopause. The world population as of January 2021 stands around 7.8 billion people – approximately 3.9 billion women. In the UK the mid-year population total for 2020 was 67 million which represents around 33.5 million women. It is astounding given the numbers that the subject of menopause is still surrounded in mystery, hear say and assumption. A stiff upper lip attitude of get on with it, it will pass. The NHS suggests that the menopause should last from 2 to 5 years, but the latest advice from the government is that women can experience symptoms into their sixties or even their seventies.


Menopause - In their book “Menopause: Survive and Thrive”, Anne Hope and Claire Chaubert say this about the menopause: “Menopause – the process. Strictly speaking, ‘menopause’ means the final period that a woman has; the word derives from Greek, in which ‘meno’ means month and ‘pausis’ means stop. However, ‘menopause’ is commonly used to describe the whole phase a woman goes through, often for some years before and after the last menstruation.


The correct word to describe the whole transition is ‘climacteric’.




According to The Mayo Clinic “Peri-menopause means ‘around menopause’ and refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years. Perimenopause is also called the menopausal transition”.


Menopause can cause many changes in the body, and the symptoms are primarily due to the decreased production of oestrogen and progesterone in the ovaries.


It will begin a few years before periods stop, and one of the things that are noticed is the irregularity of periods, perhaps being a day or two early or late.  The timing will become more erratic, and the bleed may change too. A woman may experience sleep disturbance, anxiety, hot flushes, lower sex drive, fatigue, vaginal dryness, urine leakage when coughing or sneezing. The body starts producing less ovarian follicles (small sacs filled with fluid that are found inside the ovaries. They secrete hormones which influence the stages of the menstrual cycle. Each has the potential to release an egg for fertilization).




Post-menopause refers to the time when all periods have stopped, and a woman has not had a bleed for 12 months. After this time, some women experience a reduction in symptoms, hot flushes may reduce or go away. However, this is not the case for many women and indeed the symptoms may worsen. A reduction in oestrogen can also result in an increased risk of osteoporosis in post-menopausal women. The drop of oestrogen leads to more bone resorption than formation, ultimately resulting in bone density loss.


In Conclusion.


The whole subject of menopause is gaining traction in mainstream media, at government level and in the corporate world – there is a greater understanding emerging as to the life altering symptoms that menopause causes, and a positivity that women are finally being heard – there is no need for the archaic treatment of menopausal women, it is merely a natural biological process, a transition, a process which all women go through.


Davina McCall has done much to help the cause in her Channel 4 programme entitled Davina McCall: Sex, Myths, and the Menopause.


Jo Whiley has talked openly in an interview with The Times, Entertainment & Arts in November 2021, about how she was struggling with menopause symptoms at the same time her Radio 2 show with Simon Mayo was being criticized. She says “I’ll be doing fine then it hits me: low self-esteem, low confidence. I don’t feel like myself at all. It’s quite daunting. It happens every couple of months. I don’t want to see anyone. My eyes are really sore. I get a burning mouth and tongue. I really get the wobbles”.


In an article by Helen Catt, Political Correspondent in The Times, she talks with Adelle Martin who runs a pub in Rochester in Kent about her journey through menopause. Adelle is quoted as saying “The menopause made me feel I was disappearing inside myself”.


Shhh… Menopausal Wellness are here as a sounding board and here to help everyone along the way.  Our menopausal product range formulated with natural pure essential oils with the addition of magnesium are here to help. 

Reduce feelings of anxiety with our Allay Anxiety Magnesium Mist, or diffuser blend. Sleep more soundly with our Sleep Sound Magnesium H20, or diffuser blend. Relax in bath salts smelling deliciously of essential oils, add a drop or two of bath oil.